To fall in love -- considered by some as the
ultimate quest in life, and prepared by others with a constant and
unending flow of fantasies, dreams, and enchanting ideas. And what we
find sometimes to be so uniquely freakish of a fetish of our own, so
personally vaulted and denied at every conscious inquiry -- we find, in
fact, that it is a secrecy of our own sexuality and our own fantasies,
that disallows us from discovering that, what we find to be deviant is
actually commonplace in the minds of all individuals. There is no person
whose sexual ideas are unique, no fantasy of anyone that is not based
on the same roots of the fantasies of others. This is sexuality, a
social and emotional facet of every human. So, it must be granted as
truth, that it is the repression of sexuality in our society, that
convinces us that our own sexuality is a freak, a deviancy, an
intolerably disgusting and improper attitude. Despite the fact that
sexuality has been an intrinsic part of the lives of the hundreds and
hundreds of millions of people, or the hundreds of billions of animals,
there are still some puritanical ideas of people to oppose it. And, even
if sexuality weren't commonplace, one would think that the argument of
"so long as none are harmed, let it be," would be enough to justify it. I
think that it was not a matter of argument, but one of shame and
repression, that granted the puritan-minded people to believe and preach
as they do.
If, in fact, those of the puritanical ideas had no conception of
sexuality, I do not believe they could have the will to rally against
sex. If it is just a fact of life, nothing that personally effected
them, then it would not be something they could muster so much
unforgiving hate for. Alas, I do not think these puritanical ideas have
done much of anything to uplift the personality of goodness or the
character of charity. The idea that sex is an evil is not a friend of
the ideals of kindness, intelligence, or truth. These puritanical
soldiers have done nothing but bog down the structure of civilization,
waging a war against our own animal nature. By seeing their own feelings
of sexuality, experiencing the desires and urges, the thoughts and
inhibitions, puritans find themselves villified with their own
character, ashamed and mortified. I think that people manage to put
anger, passion, and strong, powerful emotions into vengeance, when it is
their own personal nature that they are attacking. The puritans have
allowed themselves to be cruel, brutal, and absolutely cold blooded in
their war against sex. As the blood running through civilization warmed,
the extent to which they were allowed to fight has been limited and
limited. Tortures and murders were an intrinsic part of the original
Puritan culture, when it came to their attitude about punishing sex.
It is a rather popular statement, that beaty is in the eye of the
beholder. Yet everyone seems to interpret this statement differently.
The fact that someone or something is beuatiful is only true because
there is a critic to call it that. No artwork exemplified beauty without
an onlooker, no song brought forward melody without a listener, no poem
created peacefulness or rage without a reader. There can be no argument
to this. We find, also, that just as beauty is in the eye of the
beholder, so is ugliness in the eye of the beholder. The same artwork
that was called beautiful by one may be called ugly, disgusting, or
otherwise unappealing by another. It is here that the true meaning of
the phrase may be captured. The only reason why something is appealing
or unappealing, attractive or unattractive, is because there is a mind
in the sensory organs there to judge. The ideas of what is or is not
gorgeous, enchanting, homely, or wretched are all dependent upon the
viewer. Then we apply these ideas to a person. One's voice is seen as
glorious in tone or rancid in quality. The face and body become a
considerable work of art or a defaced panting, or something in between
or to a more extreme. Judging a body and a face, though, as beautiful or
ugly, is a much different action than judging a painting as either
beautiful or ugly.
A person, unlike a painting or a poem, is conscious, capable of
emotion and happiness. All of a sudden, their physical attributes become
subject to criticism and judgment. What is the purpose, though, of
finding someone attractive or unattractive? The simple and obvious
answer is for thepurpose of mating and procreation. Now that the reason
for appeal or unappeal, in a person's beauty anyway, has been uncovered,
another question remains open. If a person's outter shell can be judged
as ugly or beautiful, by one person or another, and since this judgment
does not help us to determine their character, should we disregard
beauty and ugliness as a deterent to a person's true self?
Of those individuals who call themselves Freethinkers, artists,
independent minds, lovers of intelligence and friends of liberty, it is
the typical attitude that a person's emotions and way of thinking is in
fact a part of their intrinsic self. There can be no greater proof of
this than experience: beautiful people may be cruel and heartless, as
the ugly people can be intelligent and meaningful, and vice versa. A
person's beauty does not determine the way they think. It does not make
them more kind or charitable, nor does it instill in them attributes of
vice or cruelty. This fact, I imagine will meet with no argument from
those whom have experienced the world. The Freethinkers, though, have
further advanced this position, by incorporating this philosophy int
their personal lives. They do not judge people on their image, and
accept friendship and affection from someone regardless of theri looks,
and they are not less scornful of a brutal person no matter their
beauty. They have taken a rational position and they must be commended
for that. In another way, some of them have incorporated their
philosophy into their sexuality, either consciously or unconsciously.
For example, they find someone attractive based on their ideas, their
character, their way of thinking and personality. One's physical body
becomes esxually arrousing once they are identified with ideas of
justice and goodness. They have not warded off human sexuality, so they
have much more mindfulness and personal awareness than the puritans. In
some cases, a Freethinker who fell in love with someone for their ideas,
after the berakup, individuals they see resembling their initial love,
even if socially considered unattractive, are considered attractive by
the Freethinker.
So it happens, that the phrase comes to us, "Beauty is in the eye of
the beholder," and we find that beautiful and ugly are relative terms,
subjective in that they are exsiting only in the mind. Our natural
response to this is that a person cannot wholly be judged by their
physical, since they are conscious. they are capable of thoughts, ideas,
emotions. Thus we find every Freethinker and independent individual
falling in love with a personality of a person, irregardless of physical
appeal.
There is one fact that must be treated, though. An individual cannot
have sex with a personality. As much as the idea is desired, physical
affection cannot be given to a thought, an idea, or a character. It is
necessary that a body is there. Admiration of an individual and their
thoughts is never so pure or heart-warming as when there is a face for
that individual, by which emotions and even ideas can be expressed. The
look of ease, of a person laying down at the end of a long day, or a
look of interest and intrigue, fascinated by the current occurrences, or
a look of boldness and strength, defending what we believe in and what
we fight for. The analytical expression, unsatisfied with what we know,
delving through thoughts, facts, memories, to develope a more just
theory -- the expression of deep thought, it allows us a a greater
admiration of the deep thought itself. Nothing can greater express
sadness than a story one wished to levie by retelling, accompanied by
tears.
This is just the face alone: eyes compliment diw th brows, a mouth
given a tongue, and a nose, the rest covered with skin enveloping ten
thousand muscle strands, all of which can combine to tell us thoughts
and emotions. Anger and aggression, sadness and solemnness, pleasure and
euphoria, exhaustion and rest -- all feelings by which we can purely
communicate to another by the contraction or relaxation of our face
muscles. The blessing of the voice adds to whatever feeling we are
comunicating, even if we are not speaking actual words. In fact, the
emotion or facial expression delivers is dramatically heightened and
empathically understood those vocal sounds which transcend all human
language, particularly when we express a sudden pain, joy, or
understanding.
Then, we are to consider the rest of the body. There are few words so
reassuring, as a gentle, affectionate, and understanding touch. The
idea of love can be written in a million poems and a thousand essays,
which help us understand it in a reflective manner, but few things are
so realistically understood as love when through the physical act of it;
it is so logical to believe that experience is necessary to knowledge
in this situation, just as it is impossible to know the true nature of
terror without going through war, or other experiences. Lips, eyelashes,
and other facial features, gently caressing, touching, or nuzzling the
intimate or even common parts of the body: love-making, never so real or
pure as can be demonstrated through experience. Those gentle parts, the
neck, the stomach, the inner arms, find themselves also to be the most
intimately felt. Perhaps it is the nature of evolution: ourselves
becoming most protective of our most vulnerable parts, that they can
also be the most intimate parts, because we feel that we want our lovers
to feel those parts which we are most aware of. The other parts, the
spinal column, the inner fore arms, the hands, though we are not only
protective of them, we regard them during sex as gentle and intimate.
Understand, though, that up to this point, of the necessity of a body
for physical expression and physcial love, I have said nothing of
beauty, spoken no words on one's complection as it is concerned to sex. I
have only demonstrated the purity of expression when physical, when
either in body and through the face. Yet there may be something rather
unsettling, or otherwise seemingly contradictory about these thoughts.
Those who have based their opinion on Freethought and independence, have
argued that the physical complection, of beautiful or ugly, is not
accurately indicative of a person's inner character. But, on the other
hand, the body allows us the most pure and affectionate method of
expressing our desires.
I suppose that it must be admitted that one's body and face is an
important part of love and sexuality. Whether we find one's body to be
beautiful or not, the existence of such a body is important. But, beauty
can even play a positive role in this. A body may in fact be considered
indefferent, perhaps somewhat ugly or holmely. But, once that body has a
personality, an opinion, an ideal, a character, these things alone may
be enough for us to find them attractive physically. The same can be
said of a body we initially find attractive, but then we hear a rather
unintelligent, thoughtless mind speak, a rather cocky personality, and
an otherwise unattractive character, and we find them ugly physically.
It is not always the case, but it happens to be true often. Thus,
beauty, no matter what it comes from, a physical complection, is
necessary to a meaningful relationship.
Before ending this dissertation, there are still some thoughts on
beauty that will not rest in my heart until I have fully explained them.
As I stated before, there are many people who would find it immature or
thoughtless to love or deeply care about someone just by their physical
complection. But, it is almost a thing of serenity, when a young boy's
passions are enveloped around just the image of a girl. Granted, he may
not be thoughtful in his quest, but he is listening to his desires. The
thoughts and ideas that are spurning in his mind may be misguided, but
they are gorgeous, wonderful, and even comforting. Fantasies may be
pplayed out where just a kindly personality is placed in the boy's
fictionaly apparition of her. He will feel joy when he imagines her
impressed with every aspect of him, and very loving and caring of him.
The same can be said of a girl and her affection for any handsome man.
With this, I end. I can only hope that I have enlightened some minds.
For Life,
Punkerslut
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Punkerslut (or Andy Carloff) has been writing essays and poetry on
social issues which have caught his attention for several years.
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